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The Weirdest Thing About Being In Your Late Twenties

the weirdest thing about being in your late twenties

Getting older is a funny old thing. I’m firmly in the late twenties club now (hurtling rapidly towards my 28th birthday in fact!) and on the whole, I love it. I’m more body confident, I’ve got a decent chunk of career experience under my belt and my life generally looks how I dreamed it would when I was 16. But there’s a lot of weird stuff that comes with edging towards the end of this significant decade too – like finding your first grey hair or realising that your body just really can’t handle drinking more than 3 glasses of wine anymore.

However, I think the weirdest thing about being in your late twenties is learning to accept that you’re actually a responsible adult now. It’s something I’ve been grappling with a lot recently and it’s been at the forefront of my mind ever since our holiday with our friends the other week.

In my head I still feel like I’m 18 years old and this feeling is only intensified when I spend time with the friends I met at that age. So you can imagine my mild horror last when I found myself sat around a pool, with the girls I used to drink vats of cheap rose wine with, discussing things like mortgages and pensions and when the right time to have a baby is.

It’s so bizarre – we’ve spent the last decade chatting about Topshop dresses and crap dates and shitty landlords, and now here we are, suddenly old enough that stuff like stamp duty and fertility actually features in our current lingo. Old enough that nearly half of us are married. Old enough that house saving is being prioritised over holidays. Old enough that when considering new jobs, we’re starting to actually check what the maternity benefits are, rather than simply being swayed by the salary and career opportunities.

And the really strange thing is that none of this is remotely weird at all. We’re a group of women in our late twenties – it makes absolute sense that things like houses and careers and marriage and babies are starting to occupy our thinking space. But it still kinda feels like we’ve reached this stage too quickly. Like those carefree early twenties days went by so fast and we were too busy complaining about how broke we were to really enjoy them.

It made me wonder if I’ll ever truly feel like a real grown up, or if I’ll always feel like some sort of fraud, waiting for someone who is in charge to turn up and tell me that I need to give my mortgage and husband back because I’m just too young for them. Whether I’ll ever feel mature enough to care for a child or to have a savings account with more than a small emergency fund in it. I wonder if it will ever not feel weird that people are willing to employ me for important jobs, or that my family think I’m grown up enough to mind their kids.

My Nan tells me that she still feels 18 in her head too (and she’s 78!) so I’m not sure it ever changes. Instead, I think you just grow more confident at winging it, more comfortable with getting outside of your comfort zone, more convincing at faking it till you make it. Either way, I still find it weird that I’m apparently a fully fledged grown up now – does anybody else feel the same?

 

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  • I feel exactly the same! I’m getting really close to 30 now which I can’t believe and which terrifies me. It feels like 2 minutes ago that I was in my late teens. I really do wish that I would have enjoyed my late teens and early 20s more. I think I spent too much time and energy worrying about the future x

    Jenny | LuxeStyle

    • I remember people telling me to relax and enjoy it, but I was so caught up in worrying! x

  • I’m 24 and am waaaaaaay off all of that adult stuff – I can’t see me getting there anytime soon either! I’m glad I’m enjoying my twenties rather than just planning for the future, although my future self may not agree quite so much…

    Lorna (www.thedaychaser.com)

    • Definitely keep enjoying them and following your heart – you won’t be wrong 🙂 x

  • Yep, to all of the above. It’s so strange to look around my friendship group and see these girls walking down the aisle and looking after their children, when I firmly remember helping them walk (stagger) home on girls hols and stop throwing up. Whilst our lives have moved on as we’ve got older, I love seeing where we are now and how our lives have progressed. However the thought of turning 30 next year does feel strange….

    Ruth // http://www.ruth-writes.co.uk

    • You’re so right – adulting can be pretty fun too! x

  • Glasses Girl

    Now I’ve hit 25, I feel like adulthood has hit me like a brick to the face. I’m now officially over the whole Peter Pan generation thing and I’ve stopped being interested in hearing about people sticking their heads in the sand rather than taking responsibility. Not sure if that’s harsh or not?!

  • Emma Farley

    I totally get it! I’m 29 and have a two year old and still can’t beleven I’m responsible for this whole other r person. Bringing him home from the hospital was terrifying and when he was colicky ando WOULD NOT SCREAMING I was like, dude, what the fuck do I do?! I think we’re all winging it 🙂 Fake it til you make it!

  • I’ve decided I’m going to be in my late twenties until I’m at least 35.

    Seriously though, I get this – I’m hitting the 3-0 next year, and while I don’t actually feel pressure myself to do all the marriage and the babies and the house things my similar aged friends are doing, I find it so alien that people my age are THAT grown up. Like…actual adults? Because I definitely don’t feel like one yet!

    • I know what you mean – when my friends tell me they’re pregnant I’m always momentarily shocked! Like, erm, how are you gonna tell your parents? And then I remember that it’s totally normal for people our age to have kids! Haha x

  • I’m 24 and I still really feel so young! Its weird because in some ways I definitely still feel like a teenager however in my head I feel a lot wiser than I did 6 years ago..

    http://www.natalieleanne.com

  • Charlie Elliott

    Since three of my best friends have got married and have had/are expecting babies in the last year, I’ve had this panic about needing to be MORE grown-up because I don’t have those things. I’ve even worried about not having anything in common with them or that they think my issues are silly compared to theirs. Priorities have changed but we’re all still the same people, and if I need them, they’re around which is ultimately the most important thing!
    Cx

    • Absolutely – I think it’s weird in your twenties as it’s the first time in our lives when we don’t all “grow up” at the same rate, if you know what I mean? x

  • YES – on all counts! I’m nearing 31, Gemma is 40 next year – and we are totes winging being grownups. Well, not always, you know we run a business, we areresponsible adults, and pay a mortgage. And I’ll chat about all that none stop… but I still feel intensely surprised that I left uni 8 years ago… time flies, and I’m going to keep having fun and being childlike where poss, and not worry if I don’t feel TOO grown up anway.
    Holly xxx /// http://www.mrshollycrocker.com
    https://www.mrshollycrocker.com/blog/2017/2/1/the-top-five-beaches-we-went-to-on-our-honeymoon-frn9x

    • I like this approach – it’s all about balance! X

  • The North Left Blog

    Yes! Totally get this!
    I definitely don’t feel like I have a enough of a clue about anything to be a responsible adult! But it’s kinda happened so gradually I haven’t noticed until I catch myself talking about mortgages and things! x

    • I know what you mean – it sneaks up on you! X

  • I was thinking about this the other day. I’m still only just out of GCSEs but no, I’m not I’m actually a married adult, with bills to pay and a dog to keep alive and I sit in bed at night with my husband and talk about if our house could fit a baby in etc. It’s crazy and feels weird and right all that once!

    K.

    http://www.wonderingthrough.co.uk

    • So true – it scares me sometimes but I wouldn’t change a thing x

  • I feel slightly like the odd one out, in the sense that I feel much the same as you but also really enjoy some of this adult stuff too. Owning a house really has been everything I hoped it would be and it doesn’t feel strange now to say that I have a mortgage or a degree. I’m actually really excited by the prospect of marriage and a family. I’m 25 and I’ve always been impatient to be ‘older’ or be living the next chapter of my live… so really, my challenge is slowing myself down and appreciating the present, to be honest. I enjoyed reading this post, and the comments!
    Flora

    http://www.theeverchange.com

    • I enjoy it too – I think it’s just snuck up so gradually that sometimes I’m almost surprised by it! x

  • I totally feel this way. I’m only 23, and I have moved around A LOT so it makes everything feel quite temporary but I suddenly I’ve realized I’ve been in the same city for a whole year so it’s probably time to do things more permanently, buy some furniture, save some more money. Settle a bit.
    And in terms of friends it’s just lucky to gave a group of girls who you can go through that transition with in life 🙂

    http://littlewhytebook.com/

    • So true – I love knowing that we’ve all grown up together 🙂 X

  • I absolutely loved this, Sophie! I think it’s becoming so much more common nowadays to just ‘wing it’ as no one really seems to know what they’re doing haha!

    If it’s any consolation, you’ve been a constant source of inspiration to me for the last few months and reading your posts is just motivating me to work even harder on my own blog, so thank you for that!

    http://www.imjustagirl16.co.uk

    • Thank you so much Chloe, that means the world! x