On Learning To Love Myself

learning to love myself

I am starting to feel like disliking yourself is a pre-requisite for being a woman.

That you simply can’t be female unless you think that your bum is too big or that your stomach needs to be flatter. That you’re not really a woman unless you believe you’re not really qualified for your job or that you’re secretly a terrible friend.

We talk about the importance of self-promotion and believing in ourselves and not being confined by social norms, and yet our “flaws” seem to roll more fluidly off the tongue than our achievements do. We all know that perfection doesn’t exist, and yet we still all keep wasting our time striving for it.

I’ve written so many times before about body confidence and learning to love myself how I am right now, but as with everything in life, it’s an ongoing journey. It isn’t as easy as simply deciding to be happy with the wobbly bits and the cellulite. It’s a commitment – a vow to be grateful for everything my body does for me every single day.

And so that is what today’s post is – a thank you letter to my body. Because this body, it’s the only one I have. It’s been there for me through everything – the good, the bad, the ugly.

These fingers have typed words that have helped myself and others to make sense of difficult times.

These eyes have helped me to read all of those books that have in some way shaped me.

These legs have run not one, but two marathons, and still somehow carry me around every single day.

This mouth has tasted food so delicious that it has felt like the most important thing in the world.

These shoulders have carried responsibilities I didn’t know I was capable of carrying.

These feet have kept me dancing to my favourite music with my favourite people until 5am in the morning.

These hands have been held by every person I’ve ever loved, including those who are no longer here.

These ears have helped me to enjoy music that has become the soundtrack of my life.

These hips have propped up many a baby and toddler while we danced around the living room together.

These arms have hugged friends in need close and offered up some small bit of comfort.

This stomach has housed the butterflies that have accompanied all of those special moments in my life.

This brain has given me every idea I’ve ever had (both great and terrible).

This heart has proven that love can heal even the most damaged of things.

When I think about all of the gifts this body has given me, it’s hard to think of it anything other than wonderful. It’s hard to think of it as something that needs to be changed or made smaller when I remember how many memories it has made. Instead, I remember that I should be grateful. I remember that I must keep learning to love myself.

Tunic – c/o: Miss Tunica | Sunglasses – Celine

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  • Ahhh what a sweet lovely post Sophie!
    I love your opening and am fighting hard to always believe that no, we do not need to do ourselves down to live… I’m starting more and more to be proud of my achievements, and not be rotten to myself.
    I look after my body, because we only have one, and I want to look after it so it looks after me for many years to come.
    Holly xxx ///

    • Abso-bloody-lutely – we all need to adopt that mentality! x

  • Wow! Lovely inspiring post Sophie!
    I agree with your opening, we spend so much time doubting ourselves and hating parts that we cannot change. When you look back it feels like time wasted, when you put it how you have we are all capable of some incredible things we just dont recognise them half as much as we should!

    Kylie |

    • Thanks Kylie – it’s amazing how much our bodies do for us that we just don’t appreciate x

  • Amy Eade

    Ah Sophie I love this post and the way you’ve written it – totally puts everything into perspective when you put it like that! I’m going to bookmark it for whenever I need a little reminder 🙂
    Amy xx

  • theTaylorMade Travels

    Such a lovely post! We definitely take our bodies for grand too much. Thank you for reminding us to sit back and marvel at all our bodies achieve

  • Abi Richards

    Love this girly! Completely agree… I’d like to think everyone will get there eventually, our bodies are amazing 🙂

    • They really are and we definitely take them for granted! X

  • Ooh Sophie this post gave me goosebumps! How incredibly lovely and so true. Our bodies are the most amazing things, and have added so much joy to our lives – it is so sad that we insult ourselves so much! Immy x

    • I agree, I wish I could always remember that! X

  • What a beautiful post Sophie! I try to tell myself how lucky I am to have a strong and healthy body but I so often forget to feel grateful. This was a lovely reminder. x

    • Thanks Polly, I’m so glad it resonated with you x

  • I loved this so so much. I read it earlier, had to come back and read it again and it gave me goosebumps both times…I know I’ll come back to it in the future too! x

    • Ahhhh thanks lovely, I’m so glad it resonated with you x

  • Diana Maria

    Aw, I love the part where you write all of the positive parts of yourself. Thank you for this post, it really made me smile. It’s easy to feel like our flaws can take over, and self-love, I think, is an ongoing, continuing journey. It’s one I still learn from every day!

    Sending light & love your way,

    My Lovelier Days

  • Glasses Girl

    I love this post as it’s such a true reminder of what our bodies do for us on a regular basis that we really take for granted. xxx

    • Thanks Lizi – it’s so easy to get caught up in what we’re not rather than appreciating what we have, isn’t it? x

  • What beautiful and such special words. . .

    Bestest wishes,

    Keep Calm and start writing ~

  • Brilliant post, Sophie! x