Learning To Embrace Change

embrace change

When I was younger, I was always pretty good at embracing change. Moving from high school to college filled me with excitement rather than dread, and I couldn’t have been more ready to move to Leeds for uni. I didn’t struggle with the transition from university life to the world of work, and I’ve lived in so many flats and houses since I left home at 18, that I’m now quite the pro at changing my address.

And yet, as I’ve gotten older, change is something that I’ve started to feel intimidated by, rather than excited about. There have been plenty of moments over the past couple of years where I’ve noticed myself resisting change or feeling scared about it. I was apprehensive about the change in my identity when I got married, and I worried particularly about changing my name. I have found myself feeling much more melancholy when friends and family have relocated, or when circumstances have changed for the people I love.

But perhaps my biggest aversion to change took place in December, as I said goodbye to the job I’d loved for the past three and a half year and embarked on a brand new opportunity in a totally different industry. The two roles couldn’t have been less similar – I went from being part of one of the biggest, most successful companies in the world, with lots of job stability and a slew of generous corporate benefits, to joining a tiny tech start up with only 30 members of staff.

In the time between handing in my notice and starting my new job, I worried a lot about whether I’d made the right decision. I worried that I wouldn’t be able to adjust to the fast paced culture of a start up, that I’d miss the stability and predictability of working for a very successful multi-national. I worried that I’d been foolish to leave a company that was so well respected for one that nobody had ever heard about. I spent many sleepless nights fearing that I’d made a huge mistake and that I’d made the wrong decision to change the course of my career path, a path I’d put a lot of time and energy into cultivating.

And yet now, looking back on that transition after spending 4 weeks in my new role, I can see that it was daft of me to ever worry. The change in role has not only given me the fresh challenge that I’ve been craving for months, but it has re-energised all aspects of my life. Getting out of my comfort zone has kick-started my creativity and forced me out of the rut I had been plodding along in. I no longer have the Sunday night blues – instead, I feel genuinely happy to get out of bed every morning and get stuck into the day’s work.

The whole experience has been a lesson to me. A lesson to embrace change more, rather than fear it. Change will always be scary – as humans we are evolved to crave stability and comfort. But I’m learning that to truly life a full and happy life and to be able to reach our full potential, change is necessary.

And that’s something I want to remember as we head further into 2018. I don’t want to be held back by fear anymore. Instead, I want to say yes to change, to embrace it, and reap the rewards that come with it.

And if you’re struggling with a difficult decision, or an upcoming change on the horizon, I want you to know that it will be okay. In fact, it will be so much better than okay.

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  • Katie. lacoconoire
    16th January 2018 at 6:35 am

    one of my fave quotes is ” ship at harbour is safe but thats not what ships are for”. change is a great thing, scary quite a lot of the tim, yes – but always always an exciting journey!

    i feel like i really needed this little reminder today, it couldnt have come at a better time so thank you! xxx

    katie. xx

    • Sophie Cliff
      17th January 2018 at 9:39 am

      I LOVE that quote!!! Thanks for sharing x

  • Hannah Walter
    16th January 2018 at 6:47 pm

    Change is definitely scary, but sometimes necessary! I changed my job at the start of 2017, and was so incredibly worried about doing so, but it turned out to be absolutely for the best.

    Suitcase and Sandals Blog XX

    • Sophie Cliff
      17th January 2018 at 9:39 am

      I think that’s often the way! So glad it worked out for you 🙂 x

  • Abi Street
    16th January 2018 at 7:11 pm

    I can definitely agree that as more time goes on, the more change freaks me out! And similar to you, I used to find it so normal, especially changing my address every five minutes! So glad to hear your new job is going well and you’re loving it! x

    Abi | abistreetx

    • Sophie Cliff
      17th January 2018 at 9:40 am

      It’s weird how we grow more risk averse with age, isn’t it?! x

  • Peta
    17th January 2018 at 1:34 pm

    Oh I love the post Sophie, I’m terrible for getting stuck in my ways and yet, like you, change always gives me a very much needed kick up the bum! Thank you for this reminder lovely.
    Peta x

    • Sophie Cliff
      18th January 2018 at 7:27 am

      It’s something we all need to learn to remember I think! x

  • Melina
    17th January 2018 at 2:59 pm

    Hey, just wanted to let you know that your instagram widget isn’t working on your blog! xxx

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    • Sophie Cliff
      18th January 2018 at 7:27 am

      Thank you so much for letting me know! x

  • Holly
    17th January 2018 at 9:00 pm

    YES to all of the above! I feel similarly to my attitude to change – I must have moved house about 15 times between school and where I am now – uni / placements / manchester etc… but now I’m so averse to change.
    Our change recently at work played on my mind for MONTHS before, but it’s SOOOOO good! That cliche of the feel the fear, do it anyway, so true!!!

  • Sarah Ⓥ
    31st January 2018 at 12:28 pm

    You’re so right! Getting older really does make wanting change harder, but I guess it’s important to still change things up whenever it feels right and step out of your comfort zone! 🙂