The 10 best pieces of advice I have ever been given
These days, it seems like there is advice wherever you turn. There are blog post telling you how to live a happier life, magazines advising you how to be healthier and TV shows focussed on how to save more money.
It can get a bit overwhelming at times, and there are so many conflicting points of view that quite frankly, I pretty much always end up switching off. But as with everything, inside the reels of advice there are always some good'uns - here are the 10 best pieces of advice I have ever been given.
1) You're never going to please everyone
I wish I'd believed this one earlier. It's only really in the past year or so that I've started to take this advice on board and it is SO freeing. Ultimately, no matter what you do, there is always going to be someone who disagrees with you or thinks you should have done things differently. The only person you should really care about pleasing is yourself.
2) Always buy the bigger size
A gem that my Mum has drummed in to my sister and I since we were teenagers - don't try and squeeze yourself into something just beause you're afraid to wear a size bigger. Wearing a slightly looser 12 as opposed to a clingy 10 will make you look WAY slimmer and you'll feel more comfortable and confident.
3) Spend money on experiences rather than things
A new handbag might make you happy for a couple of weeks, but a weekend exploring a new city will give you memories that you can look back on for years. And that's all that matters really isn't it? Making memories with the people you love and feeling like you're really living your life.
4) Say yes to every opportunity
Even it scares the crap out of you or you don't think you're ready for it, chances are, that big scary opportunity might just be the best thing that ever happened to you. I can honestly say that nothing bad has ever come out of taking the leap and saying yes to whatever exciting challenge has come my way, so just do it!
5) If you look your best, you'll do your best
This one sounds a bit superficial and blahhh, but it really is true! It's definitely worth noting if you have an interview or a big scary presentation - wearing something that makes you feel confident and sassy will make you act more confident and sassy. Yes, you can use this as validation to go and buy that dress you've been eyeing up...
6) Tidy room, tidy mind
This doesn't just go for room, but also for kitchen/desk/car, etc etc. Having a clear space and a bit of organisation makes it so much easier to focus and get on with your to do list, but it also makes me feel calmer and more at ease in my day to day life. I'm not saying spend every moment dusting, but keeping on top of things will make you feel so much better.
7) Always keep fresh flowers in your house
This wasn't a piece of advice per se, but rather a habit that I've inherited from my lovely Nan. She always had a vase of fresh flowers on her dining room table - daffodils in spring, bright pink carnations, a giant bunch of gypsophilia - and it always made her house feel so homely. It's something that I've copied ever since having my own abode and it really cheers me up.
8) Life is all about balance
Our whole education system is focussed on academic results and then getting your dream job once you finish, but so little time is placed on educating people about the importance of life outside of work. It's so key to have other hobbies and to hang out with friends and family and to just have a little down time looking after yourself - no matter how successful you are in your job, it's impossible to be truly happy without a bit of balance.
9) A cup of tea will always make you feel better
I don't really know why this one works BUT IT JUST DOES. Maybe the 5 minutes it takes to make it gives you enough time to calm down, or maybe it's just the ritual of doing something familiar that lends a bit of comfort, but whenever I'm feeling stressed or anxious or just a little blue, I always feel much better after a good ol' cup of tea.
10) You can't choose what happens to you, but you can choose how you react to it
I first heard this on a course I was sent on with work way back in 2012 and I swear to God, it is an absolute GAMECHANGER. Before that course it had never occurred to me that you could choose your mood. I was one of those people who would be stuck in traffic on the way to work and let it make me grumpy for the whole day. Now I focus on how I want to feel and react, rather than instantly taking a negative approach.