5 ways to get some quick perspective

its not how good you are its how good you want to be Being a 20-something these days is HARD. I don't know if it has always been this way or if us millenials have got it particularly tough, but it can definitely feel like trying to be a functioning adult is a bit of a balancing act.

I find that it's so easy to end up in a complete stress when work isn't going right and you forgot to pay that bill and you haven't been food shopping in forever and you don't have any clean socks. It's so easy to think that you're failing at adulting and not doing it right and that everyone must have some sort of secret trick that they're not sharing with you.

This post is to assure you that a) we all feel like that and b) you're probably just being a bit hard on yourself. I've put together a couple of things that help me when I'm at my all time flappiest - here are 5 ways to get some quick perspective...

1) Think about what you were doing 5 years ago

Write a list of all of the awesome things you've done since then and give yourself a massive pat on the back for all of your ahievements. Remembering that you've already done a lot of ace stuff is a quick way to boost your confidence and make you feel more at ease.

2) Think about the worst outcome to whatever situation you are stressing about

This one sounds counterintuitive, but it's likely that the very worst outcome to any given situation probably isn't as bad as you think.

3) Break things down

Sometimes my brain gets so full with things to try and remember that I end up forgetting half of them and feeling like a terrible person. Write a list of everything you need to do and break it down into manageable chunks. By doing 1 or 2 small things a day it'll seem more manageable, and you'll actually get started with the list rather than just ignoring it because it seems too scary.

4) Find your smile inducers

These are the things that you can think about that make you feel a little bit happier in any situation. It might be you're really supportive other half or your super cute niece or your lovely home or that holiday that you're counting down to. Whatever they are, make a note of them and remember them whenever you're starting to stress out.

5) Have a cup of tea and a catch up with a grandparent or an older relative

Ask them questions about their life and the memories they hold most dear - chances are they won't be telling you about that time they got a promotion or nailed a big project, they'll probably be reminiscing about great days out with family or about how they met their other half. It's vital to realise that even though our careers are important, they aren't the be all and end all.

There you have it - these are my sure fire tips to always shake me out of any stress-filled rut! What are yours?