Choosing Positivity


This is a post I've wanted to write for a little while now. Choosing positivity is something I've been trying to practice as much as possible over the past few months, and I really do think it has helped me. You see, none of us have any control over what happens in this life. Sure, we can choose the little things, like where to live or what job we want to spend our days doing. But the big, huge, scary, life changing stuff is totally out of our hands.

Life is messy and unfair and unpredictable. Worlds can be turned upside down in a matter of minutes and horrible things happen to the loveliest of people. None of us can control any of that.

But what we can choose to control is how we react to that. There is so much sadness in this world that it would be easy to slip into a black hole of negativity and despair and pessimism. What is much harder, but much more rewarding, is to choose positivity. To choose to see the things you can still be grateful for, to choose to focus on the good things still to come.

I'm not saying that choosing positivity is easy. I'm learning first hand that it's bloody HARD. It's so much easier to give in to all of the terrible things that have happened, or could happen, and let the weight of them keep you bogged down in an overwhelming sadness. Every morning I have to force myself with all my might to choose positivity instead of despair. I have to remind myself to look for the good, to count my lucky stars for all of the love I have, and have had, in my life.

It's not an easy choice at all, but I feel comforted knowing that it is a choice that I can make. And choosing positivity always makes me feel better. Because no matter how shit life might be sometimes, there is always something to feel grateful for. Choosing positivity means choosing love, instead of fear.

When I choose love, I remember that no matter what happens, I am surrounded by wonderful, caring people who will always have my back. I remember that I am the luckiest girl in the world to have family and friends and colleagues like mine. I remember that even though life feels hard right now, there are happier memories to be made in the future. The more often you choose positivity, the better you will feel.

It's a trick we can all learn with a bit of practice. Whenever you feel stressed or overwhelmed or scared or like giving up, look for the love. Choose positivity. I promise it will make you feel better.