Are You Ready To Dream Bigger?

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Can I let you in on a secret? I never used to be a big dreamer. That might surprise you, seeing as I’m always harping on about dreaming bigger and living life on our own terms here on the blog. But I didn’t always think this way. Don’t get me wrong, I have always been ambitious. I have always been passionate about creating a good life for myself, and I have always been willing to do the work to get there. But there has also always been a fear hanging around in my head, a little goblin sitting on my shoulders warning me that if I dreamt too big, I’d surely fail. Reminding me over and over again that “people like us don’t do things like that”. Convincing me that life would be easier if I just played it safe.

And so, that’s exactly what I did, for a very long time. I put a limit on my ambitions, drew a boundary around my dreams. I took the safe route, because that way, I knew there was less chance of failure. I listened to the expectations others had for me, convinced myself that I’d find happiness once I’d ticked off the long list of milestones society had conditioned me to strive towards - the corporate job, the company car, the big promotion, our first house.

There was always a gut feeling, a whisper that this wasn’t how my life was supposed to look, that I’d never be truly happy following this path. But I ignored it. I ignored it because for the most part, my life was fine. We were healthy, we had a roof over our heads, we had enough money to book a holiday that we could count down to during those bleak weeks and months, when my job was more stressful than ever and it felt like every promotion or new role required me to shake off yet another part of my identity.

But I was fine. Other people have it much worse, I’d tell myself. There are some people who would dream about being in your situation, I’d counter whenever I found myself moaning, never once stopping to ask myself what it was that I was dreaming about.

And I think that I would have continued with this way of thinking indefinitely if life hadn’t thrown some pretty huge curveballs my way. I’m almost certain that I would have continued that safe and steady plod, settling for what was in touching distance, counting down to holidays and Christmas breaks and ultimately, retirement, in order to get me through the working weeks. But those curveballs came - a series of heartbreaking situations that made me realise once and for all that life was too short, that I could no longer be satisfied with “fine”.

I knew I needed to make a change, but I had no idea where to begin. Because where do you start with peeling back the layers of expectation and guilt and societal conditioning? How do you begin to let go of the dreams that weren’t ever really yours, and start to figure out what is you truly want out of life? How do you learn to cut out the noise and get better at listening to your own gut, when you’ve spent decades screaming at it to shut up?

What I’ve learnt is that this process of dreaming bigger takes a lot of courage. It requires you to be honest with yourself, to own your ambitions, rather than burying your head in the sand and hoping that they’ll go away. It requires a lot of patience as you try to rewire those connections in your brain, the ones that are convincing you right now that fear trumps hope, that safety is better than failure. It requires you to have total trust in yourself, to believe that you already have all of the answers lodged somewhere deep inside of you.

But I’ve also learned that sometimes we need a little bit of support in drawing those answers out from the place where they’ve been hidden. We need somebody to stand by our sides and cheer us on as we do the hard work, someone to remind us why we’re trying. We need somebody to bounce ideas off, somebody to ask the right questions, somebody to help us figure out the next step when we’re feeling stuck.

And we need that person to be someone who has our best interests in heart. Someone encouraging, someone who is prepared to listen to our deepest, darkest fears as we try to figure out our wildest, most important dreams. Someone neutral, someone who cares only about you, and not the many other expectations that your family or your partner or your friends or your peers might have for you.

I hope that for some of you, I can be that person. Because one of my big, life affirming dreams is to help as many people as possible start living their lives on purpose. To help people realise that none of us should be settling for fine when there is so much more out there for us to enjoy.

And I’ll be honest - it is so very scary for me to admit this dream. It has taken an awful lot of courage for me to begin on this journey. But listening to my own ambitions, believing that they are real and valid and important? That’s the kindest thing that I have ever done for myself. And I want to help you show yourself that same sort of kindness.

So, on that note, I am equal parts excited, terrified and overjoyed to tell you all that I’m going to be opening up some time for us to work together on a 1:1 basis. There are two packages available depending on the level of support you need, but both have been designed for those people who (just like me 2 years ago) know that they need to make a change, but need a little help with getting started. They are designed for those of you who know that there is something bigger out there for you, but have no idea just yet what exactly that looks like.

You can find all of the details of the packages here, but the overarching premise is simple - I want to help you dream bigger. Because fine isn’t enough. None of us should be settling for fine. Not when there are big, wild, exciting dreams out there, just waiting to be realised. Are you ready?

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Want to book your place or find out more? Simply drop me an email at sophiecliff@live.com and I’ll send you all the details you need to get started.